Tiger is a leader, as much as any of us is a leader. In Tiger’s case, he was an icon of the sports world, the highest paid athlete in the world. He was providing many young golfers nationwide a role model, he was providing many golfers a standard by which they judged themselves. For some of us, we are a leader by showing people younger than us how to act (or not to act) when they grow up. For some of us, we run an organization or a non-profit, and people look to us to direct their professional lives. Some of us are good friends to others – and people look at us to lead conversations, or be a shoulder to cry on, or a pal to laugh with. And some of us are just leaders for ourselves, directing our actions and our goals and pointing ourselves to a better future.
Anyone who has anyone observing and taking cues from them is a leader. This includes all of us. Every single person is a leader. You either lead organizations, others, or yourself, but you are doing some sort of leading in your life. We are all living and breathing some sort of leadership. Isn’t it important that you lead correctly?
This is the thing that is so tragic about Tiger’s mismanaged personal life. He started simply as a golfer, leading himself to become one of the best athletes in the world. Then he became the world’s best golfer, leading hundreds of athletes in strokes and salary. Then he became a role model, providing millions of adults and children someone to admire and look up to. And his flawed personal ethics now reverberates, even if only subconsciously, down that chain out into the world. His personal life is now affecting him, his family, the hundreds of athletes who were competing with him, and the millions of people who admired him.
Everyone can fall victim to this. I think America has a morbid fascination with watching the media tear apart another celebrity’s life. But this could happen to everyone to some degree. It’s not just an affair. It’s preaching kindness but being rude to close friends. It’s leading a non-profit that helps kids in Africa but not tending to your own children. It’s about living leadership that is not whole and having people realize that you do not have the integrity you were thought to have. And, when that happens, and it affects all the people around you, it is so sad.
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I’m at the business school at Georgetown University. Many business school students are obsessed with being a CEO ten or fifteen years down the road. They want to run an organization, a group of people. They want to be viewed as true leaders, making change and guiding a company into the future.
But here’s the kicker. You can’t be an effective leader for others if you can’t be an effective leader of yourself. You can’t inspire others until you learn to inspire yourself. And you can’t really create an ethical organization if you can’t be ethical yourself.
You may put on appearances, like Tiger did. People may look at you and think that you’re a wholesome, good leader. But sooner or later, it could catch up to you. Like it did with Tiger, the corrupt CEOs of this most recent crash, or countless other leaders who couldn’t get their personal lives in line. Don’t take this risk, if you want to be true, good leader.
The bottom line is that your morality cannot be segmented into different parts of your life. You can’t be a moral business person and mentally abuse your wife. You can’t be a moral father but cheat on your taxes.
Leaders have a responsibility to guide those who follow them: organizations, people, or themselves. If you want to be a good leader – it is essential that you learn to live in harmony with your personal values and learn to live and breathe good leadership. The kind that you would be proud to have reverberate down your family, friends, competitors and admirers.
Integrity. It doesn’t mean honesty or truthfulness. It means whole. Integrated. It is where your business leadership style, your social leadership style and your personal leadership style are one and the same.
If you’re interested in reading more about this, I suggest reading the book “A Higher Standard of Leadership: Lessons from the Life of Gandhi,” by Keshavan Nair. Fantastic book, and very inspiring.
Here’s an excerpt the first chapter of this book on the great blog CharityFocus.org.
Tiger is a leader, as much as any of us is a leader. In Tiger’s case, he was an icon of the sports world, the highest paid athlete in the world. He was providing many young golfers nationwide a role model, he was providing many golfers a standard by which they judged themselves. For some of us, we are a leader by showing people younger than us how to act (or not to act) when they grow up. For some of us, we run an organization or a non-profit, and people look to us to direct their professional lives. Some of us are good friends to others – and people look at us to lead conversations, or be a shoulder to cry on, or a pal to laugh with. And some of us are just leaders for ourselves, directing our actions and our goals and pointing ourselves to a better future.
Anyone who has anyone observing and taking cues from them is a leader. This includes all of us. Every single person is a leader. You either lead organizations, others, or yourself, but you are doing some sort of leading in your life. We are all living and breathing some sort of leadership. Isn’t it important that you lead correctly?
This is the thing that is so tragic about Tiger’s mismanaged personal life. He started simply as a golfer, leading himself to become one of the best athletes in the world. Then he became the world’s best golfer, leading hundreds of athletes in strokes and salary. Then he became a role model, providing millions of adults and children someone to admire and look up to. And his flawed personal ethics now reverberates, even if only subconsciously, down that chain out into the world. His personal life is now affecting him, his family, the hundreds of athletes who were competing with him, and the millions of people who admired him.
Everyone can fall victim to this. I think America has a morbid fascination with watching the media tear apart another celebrity’s life. But this could happen to everyone to some degree. It’s not just an affair. It’s preaching kindness but being rude to close friends. It’s leading a non-profit that helps kids in Africa but not tending to your own children. It’s about living leadership that is not whole and having people realize that you do not have the integrity you were thought to have. And, when that happens, and it affects all the people around you, it is so sad.
Integrity
I’m at the business school at Georgetown University. Many business school students are obsessed with being a CEO ten or fifteen years down the road. They want to run an organization, a group of people. They want to be viewed as true leaders, making change and guiding a company into the future.
But here’s the kicker. You can’t be an effective leader for others if you can’t be an effective leader of yourself. You can’t inspire others until you learn to inspire yourself. And you can’t really create an ethical organization if you can’t be ethical yourself.
You may put on appearances, like Tiger did. People may look at you and think that you’re a wholesome, good leader. But sooner or later, it could catch up to you. Like it did with Tiger, the corrupt CEOs of this most recent crash, or countless other leaders who couldn’t get their personal lives in line. Don’t take this risk, if you want to be true, good leader.
The bottom line is that your morality cannot be segmented into different parts of your life. You can’t be a moral business person and mentally abuse your wife. You can’t be a moral father but cheat on your taxes.
Leaders have a responsibility to guide those who follow them: organizations, people, or themselves. If you want to be a good leader – it is essential that you learn to live in harmony with your personal values and learn to live and breathe good leadership. The kind that you would be proud to have reverberate down your family, friends, competitors and admirers.
Integrity. It doesn’t mean honesty or truthfulness. It means whole. Integrated. It is where your business leadership style, your social leadership style and your personal leadership style are one and the same.
If you’re interested in reading more about this, I suggest reading the book “A Higher Standard of Leadership: Lessons from the Life of Gandhi,” by Keshavan Nair. Fantastic book, and very inspiring.
Here’s an excerpt the first chapter of this book on the great blog CharityFocus.org.